DARE to be Different this Year!


By Riana Milne  The Pineapple Contributing Writer With another year ending, it’s time to look back at 2015 and celebrate all your successes, as well as the valuable lessons learned through the trials and tribulations of any difficult transition that helped you to grow. Being in Delray less than 2 years, there are still a ton of transitioning going on for me. However, I follow a spiritual path that allows me to face these changes and challenges with a confident knowing. In the spiritual world, everything unfolds exactly as it should. I accept there cannot be happy peak victories all the time. There must also be valleys, and difficult times that challenge us – to make us grow, change, and learn – ultimately, making us better human beings. During the slow times, I forced myself to become more creative, asking, “What can I do?” and never, “Why isn’t this happening faster for me?” A Positive Mind-set can make all the difference in reaching your life’s dreams, in work and relationships. In order to play in the game of life, you must be willing to take calculated (not impulsive) risks to get “into the game.” Risk is about trying new things, and stretching your knowledge and accomplishment levels. Realize that failures are not a bad thing, but simply a part of your future successes. They help you think more creatively, and force you to evoke changes. When I left NJ in March of 2014, I had a packed therapy and coaching practice for 13 years, and moved to Florida and started again – at zero. I was expecting challenges, to work hard and plant a ton of seeds. As with a tree in nature, those seeds, like a business, takes time to grow solid and strong. Creativity comes when you stay calm in the process of growth, and think outside of the box of the norm. Think, what can you do differently; and watch what amazing accomplishments unfold. You will know when a need to change is knocking at your door. If you have Anxiety; that is stress that is not channeled properly. One is usually constantly worried over things they either cannot control (like another person’s actions); or they have fear and doubt that they are unable to handle a needed transition. Depression is sadness or anger over a situation that is usually ongoing (like an emotionally toxic relationship, an unfulfilling career, or a dire financial situation) that you are not willing to face or refuse to find the courage to change it. You are choosing then, instead, to play small and stay stuck in your negativity and misery. Any situation can be changed once you are determined to take the first step. This year, dare to be and live differently! It’s time to take massive action – to feel excited about life again! Make 2016 all about having the courage to take a new journey to becoming your Best self in all your Life sphere’s, and in all your relationships. It’s time to practice love, kindness and integrity with yourself and others. It’s time to grow out of a limiting and self-centered ego, drop the masks of shame, forgive the past and those who have hurt you, and become your fabulous, confident, authentic and joyful self. You can become proud of who and what you are, do and say – despite the judgment of others. Because when you live “for the good of all” you will really shine, and your inner light will be shared with the world. When you live in a spiritually calm and loving way, your entire life changes. Challenges are messages of lessons we need to learn. In Buddhism they call these experiences existing in “the earth school” and transitions that are forced upon you, “the winds of change.” If you were meant to leave something for a long time, and you were unhappy and miserable, you may be forced to change. Perhaps this is a relationship that has run its course and you finally feel compelled to get some Coaching with your partner; if they refuse, it may be time to move on. Regarding your career, don’t continue to do a job you hate – life is just too short for that. What is your passion? What are you being called to do? How can you be of better service to others within your work, so you feel you are making a difference every day? Believe in your dreams and take a chance! Make the crucial conscious choice to dedicate yourself to the commitment necessary to evoke the transformation that will make you excited about Life again. Take the time to do YOU this year – to reinvent yourself to be a person who believes in themselves and their dreams. New Years is the perfect occasion to invest the time and energy into a Certified Coach who will guide you into creating and implementing the personal life, relationships and career goals required to get you motivated and inspired to make profound changes; leading you to grow into the amazing person you always knew you could be. Riana Mine, MA, is a Certified, global Relationship, Love & Life Coach, a #1 Best Selling author, Host of the WRPBiTV show: Lessons in Life & Love, a motivational speaker, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Cert Addictions Professional at Therapy by the Sea; 15300 Jog Rd, Suite 109, Delray Beach. Her free App: My Relationship Coach offers more articles and her 5 star rated books, LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve and LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose and Success, addresses relationships with yourself and others. Go to www.RianaMilne.com or email RianaMilne@gmail. com. Worldwide Coaching Phone: (201) 281-7887. Delray office: (561) 701- 8277; Skype Coaching and FB: Coach Riana Milne